5 Dating Hacks to save you time and spare you heartacheđź’”
A few years before I met Darrin, I went on a hike with a friend. I was telling her how lonely I was, and how lucky she was to have met her partner, who was clearly her soul match.
She asked me: “Well, do you know what you want? Do you want to get married? Do you want a family?”
I couldn’t even answer her. Either I didn’t know what I actually wanted in a partner and my love life in general, or I couldn’t find the courage to say it out loud. Either way, I was fuzzy.
So my approach to dating was scattershot. I would create an online profile that was very “light” in my approach, like: “looking to get to know someone like-minded and see what happens,” versus “I am ready for my Big Love” (I probably wasn’t).
What I needed to do was get crystal-clear on my vision for love, and then learn how to look for it in a way that felt good to me. I needed to date in a targeted way for my sacred partner.
Have you also been taking a scattershot approach to dating? Maybe I can help you out, my dear, so you can get to love quicker than I did!
So how do you date for sacred love?
These 5 dating hacks may save you time and spare you heartache… AND put you in the driver’s seat of your dating life, which is where you belong, love.❤️
Stay rooted in your vision. That will answer everything (I gave tips for getting clear on your love vision in my last blog post). Regularly visualize you and your sacred partner and really feel what it’s like to be with them (any of these guided meditations can get you there). You’re looking for a vibrational match with your vision – not a crossed-off checklist. And the only way to know if someone you’re dating is a vibrational match is to get very familiar with that vibration on your own. That’s what visualization does.
Dial in your Dating Profile. So many singles say they’re looking for serious relationships, yet their dating profiles are seriously casual — and that only attracts casual daters. You need to craft a dating profile that captures your specific energy, targets your unique match, and states directly what you want in a relationship. Don’t worry about scaring people off – you’re only filtering out wrong fits. Here’s a hint: When you describe the person you’re looking for, draw on the list of core values you developed for your soulmate wish list (for more about how to create a customized dating profile that will get you results, join my online course, Opening to Sacred Love. You’ll also get a 15-minute love coaching session with me as a bonus).
Diversify your Dating Life. It’s not just about the dating apps. You need to open up more avenues in your life for love to find you – specifically, ones that feel aligned with you and what you want in life. True love is often found on the same path as your life purpose. Pursuing your passions can light up your everyday life, while also ushering in new opportunities to meet kindred spirits and putting you in an optimal energetic space for receiving love. (My online program Opening to Sacred Love includes a bonus webinar with a powerful intuitive exercise to help you pinpoint specific venues to meet worthy dating contenders that match your vision for love).
Shift your Internal Questions. When you’re interacting with love interests, try shifting the question from “is this person right for me?” (which is about them) to “what do I want?” (which is about you). When you’re asking the first question, you’re in evaluation mode – you’re scrutinizing that person to see if they measure up. In other words, you’re in your head, and it’s not a place you want to stay with dating. When you are asking the second question, you’re in your heart, and allowing your inner compass to guide you.
Stay in your heart. Whether you are on a date or simply talking to someone who catches your interest, pay attention to whether you’re in your heart or your head. If it’s your head, try consciously breathing your energy down into your heart. Now tune into your inner world: How am I feeling? Is my body relaxed? Am I enjoying myself? Engaged with the conversation? What’s my vibration like? You’re just getting curious about the vibration between the two of you. Does it feel like a vibrational match to your highest vision? It’s okay if you don’t know right away. Keep tuning into your body and to your heart. All will be clear as you keep getting to know them.
This last practice also keeps the focus on you. You’re giving yourself the space you need to feel things out with someone, rather than constantly wondering, “What does this person think of me? Do they like me?”
You guessed it – those kinds of questions keep you in your head. Besides, it doesn’t really matter. The only thing that matters is fit, and you can determine that by staying rooted in your vision for love and sensing into that vibrational match.
When you give yourself the power to choose (rather than handing that over to the other person), you honor your own worthiness for love.
And by boosting your own feeling of worthiness for love, you’ll be able to relax into the pure joy of dating and getting curious about the other soul you’re with.
Excited to put these dating hacks into practice? Post a comment below and tell me which one you’re going to try first! And if you do love coaching with me, I’ll guide you through all of these steps and many more.
Cheering you on with love! ❤️
Christina McMahon is a love coach and certified somatic counselor. Over the past seven years, she has helped hundreds of conscious singles remove inner barriers to love and step into the love life they desire and deserve. Schedule your free consult call with Celeste, Christina’s Client Care Specialist and discover if love coaching is the right path to your Big Love.
