My last holiday as a "single"… And how the holidays can help YOU find love.❤️
Do you ever dread the holidays as a single person?
I sure did.
Yes, I liked being back in my cozy family home, catching up with my sisters and old friends, and being the best auntie in the world to my young nephews.👼👼
But OMG, the questions that came at me!!
And not only at family gatherings, but at every swank holiday party I went to:
– So, have you met anyone yet?
– Are you still single?
– Why are you still single?
– When’s it going to be your turn?
Ouch. Talk about salt in the wound.
These questions hurt so much because they were the same ones I turned around in my own mind, over and over again, many times a day.
I judged myself for being single, for feeling blocked with love, and for allowing myself to face yet another holiday season alone.🙁
Essentially, I created my own suffering.
By rejecting my own experience as a single person, I set myself up for the worst kind of hurt during the holidays – and that's what allowed other people's words to wound me.
When all that got sandwiched between seeing happy couples radiating their warm holiday glow, it was downright misery.
Until the year I turned everything around.…
That year I decided not to bail on myself – no matter what. That I would love who I was, and where I was in my life, and drench myself in compassion whenever the holidays got me down.
So I went in prepared.
My phone was loaded up with self-compassion meditations, plus other ones for visualizing love for myself.
There was a special room in my mom's house that I would speak into to listen to those tracks to soothe myself whenever I felt out of place among the array of happily partnered up siblings and siblings-in-law.
I also called on an ancestor guide beforehand, my beloved Grandma Mary, to hold me up whenever I felt insecure, especially when I heard the dreaded questions about being single…
Which, in the end, didn’t come that year.
At. All.
That's when I saw that those dreaded questions were simply a reflection of something in me – a lack I felt at being single, which got amplified during the holidays.
When I showed up for the holidays secure in myself and at peace with my single status, the questions dropped away. There was no more “lack” in me to reflect back.
Two months later, I met Darrin. And ever since then, he's been the other half of my own “happy couple radiating a warm holiday glow.”
This was not a coincidence.
It was a firm, heart-centered resolve to use the holiday season as an opportunity to heal my heart and open it up to more love.
This worked miracles for me, and I promise it can do the same for you, dear one.
Here's how: Join Darrin & me for our online Holiday Love Workshop on Sunday, December 4.
We’re going to teach you everything you need to know about how to turn on your light and thrive this holiday season and into the New Year… And connect with exciting new partners along the way!
In this Workshop you will:
Learn how to use the magic of the holidays to magnetize love
Be inspired and confident to meet and date others from a place of strength, creativity, and belonging
Nurture a sense of ease and comfort with yourself so you may experience a deeper connection with family, friends, and community
Here's the math:
Love is magic + the holidays are magic + YOU are magic in your intention for love = YOU GET LOVE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON✨❄️💝
Believe me. It can happen for you too…
Christina McMahon is a love coach and certified somatic counselor. Over the past six years, she has helped hundreds of conscious singles remove inner barriers to love and step into the love life they desire and deserve. Schedule your free consult call with Celeste, Christina’s Client Care Specialist and discover if love coaching is the right path to your Big Love.
